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What Is Counseling?

According to the American Counseling Association, counseling is defined as: “a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals, families, and groups to accomplish mental health, wellness, education, and career goals."There are different counseling theories that counselors use in their therapies. Counselors may choose one theory or another depending on the case in hand. Some counselors specialize in one theory or another and others may pick up techniques from different theories depending on the situation.

With the fast pace of our lives today, we barely have time to take care of ourselves. Our long ‘To Do’ lists often end up with longer ones of unfinished tasks that add up to our daily stress. We are often stressed by lack of enough time to do what we need to do. We are pressured with simple daily issues that accumulate and add to our stress. Sometimes we face more serious problems that may leave us tired, helpless, and hopeless maybe. These feelings

that we experience affect our thoughts, behaviors, and even our functions. Events by themselves mean nothing in our lives, but the way we perceive them is what is important, hence, each one of us experiences the same events in different ways.

Counseling is not magic. Counseling is a result of collaboration between the counselor and the client(s). Counselors can do nothing alone by themselves. It is important for the clients to understand that counseling does not mean giving advises. No one knows about a person’s life better than the person himself/herself. Counselors can help their clients acknowledge the issues causing their stress, grief, or pain and find new ways to deal with them.


We all pass through difficult times. We get stressed at work, fail at a certain task, or lose someone we are in a relationship with. During these unpleasant times, people especially who care for us, usually tend to give us advices. They are urged to help, and so they start telling us what is best to do based on their experience and what they have learnt from what happened to them. Do you believe that what happened to them is exactly the same as what you are experiencing? Are you sure that you can do exactly what they did or as they did? Research shows that the best thing you can do when your friend is facing difficulties is to support her/him.


When someone is not feeling well, the best thing you can do to help them is to support them, and to actively listen to them. Active listening means to sympathize with the person sharing with you their story, to feel their pain and understand it. That is the best support you can give to them. You may share your experience with them, your feelings, your successes or your failures, and they will learn whatever that they think is best for them to learn.

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