What is anger management?
Anger management is about techniques people use to express their anger positively rather than destructively.
Many people suffer from the after effects of their angry feelings. Something causes their anger, they burst, shout, hit things, people, and then regret their actions. This is why anger management can be helpful to those poeple.
Anger is a normal healthy feeling that everyone experiences at one time or another. It is a very powerful emotion that prompts us to act and protect ourselves. When infected, our body develops fever. The same thing happens when we feel unfairly treated. Our emotions develop anger. How we deal with our anger may be positive or destructive. We may act aggressively or passively or manage our anger and use it for our and benefit and for those around us.
When angry, people often react aggressively. They burst out, shout, hit someone, or break something to feel better. These behaviors help distract the person from the pain they feel, but, soon enough, the effect of this distraction fades away and anger may rise up again. This is like taking aspirin when having fever. The fever drops down for a while but the infection is still there and the fever hits again. Repeating the same thing again will not solve the problem. On the opposite, the problem may become worse as the infection spreads over and aspirin will no more do the job.
Aggressive reactions extract us from the pain we feel inside but do not solve the issue that is causing it. Our behavior might even get us into more trouble that may cause more anger later on.
Some people decide to stay silent and pretend as if nothing is going on. They sulk in their emotion and continue like normal. Others may direct their anger towards another goal. They may paint the house or finish any kind of work that had been waiting for long time. These reactions give the person a sense of control and that everything is fine. But as the issue behind the anger is still there unacknowledged and unresolved, anger may surface again anywhere and at any time.
What we can do is to manage our anger for our benefit. Anger management is not a talent or gift. It is a skill that people can learn and become better at. Some people may learn it easier than others, but everyone can do it. Most important in anger management is to acknowledge your emotion and any physical symptoms that might be there. When angry, some people breath faster, clench their jaws, bite their nails, or start moving unsteadily. Therapists help clients learn techniques that help them relax and understand the real reasons behind their anger.